Woman go through a stage of carrying. By the time of midlife, most have gone through intense pain. Usually replaced with a child. After that, the pain threshold level within her tends to be re-set.
When you physically open up, the emotions rush in. The chemical releases are one miracle of the birthing process. One charge’s in order to ‘protect, care for and cherish’ the newborn child. Yes, sometimes things happen. The ‘child within’ the woman needs to be protected more. Either way, a form of Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome has entered the woman’s life. Some know this as ‘The three-day blues’ Other feel that the length of time stretching into the years later was the misnomer.
What happens when the child is injured as it grows up. A physical wound. A mental one. Bullying, because we are different.There are the subtle lingering ones from childhood conditioning as well. Subtle things that are past along.
- Tolerance for instance.
- Acceptance for what is.
- Caring for others before yourself.
Some of life’s patterns we see within our children. Later dealing with a parent we see the things that once we saw within out own children. Now we see the source and if we are lucky we get the chance to ask “why?”
I was brought up like this. Yes, there was anger experienced when the realisation hit of a reoccurring pattern.
You, the mother of your child, have made a comment to, posted, or written letters on these trails. Yet you got annoyed at your child. And they are the same – just like you.
Many things bring Change. Repeating everything brings change if action is taken. When you have a change of mindset. And action that mindset.
In the 1950’s the nursing training was an extension of caring and healing. Wanting to be a doctor yet having a family with little money and marriage expectations the out and way forward was nursing. In 1973, my mother went to University. Life had taught and shown he so much.
The one day I went there we sat on a seat overlooking the Wellington Harbour [ New Zealand] There we talked about the change in women’s lives. How each generation raised the children with a greater education behind it. The grandparents were important as they had lived and learned. The grandmothers organised the children. Teaching by showing how to care for the younger ones. Meanwhile the mothers went to work. As the girl child learned all they could in one field they were already being introduced to the working side of life.
One important thing to note was life was never static. The newer ways of doing things were shown to the older child as she became of age to slowly move into the working side of life.
Meanwhile the stories told of change, and continuance, by the grandmother were in the head. By the time it was the girl childs turn to start to tend to the now extended families children a wealth of new experiences, inventions, methods and even foods would have been there to share. Slowly the stories changed. Or new ones came into being.
Considing with the industralial revelution came the reading of letters. Publishing of books made penny romances available. Once again expectations changed slowly over time. Well if you could not have the ‘man’ then you could have a nice cuppa tea from the prized china jug belonging to the afternoon tea set aside for visitors. Now the children were brought up with visitors are guests. Guests have manners. Learn these manners. The reward was a biscuit. The boys went off to play and the girls washed the dishes or cooked more biscuits.
In todays world the women, the traditions and conditioning of the children, have undergone another change. To many its known as a mindset channge. Brought to you by the internet. Googles blog enabled women to write, publish and create a following. Or just share with family and friends. Those who were already blogging away utilized there blogs through these means. Others who came into Facebook were influenced by social broadcasts [aka instant sharing]. When twitter hit things changed again. Twitter’s instant short 140 characters per tweet. Pinterest reinvested the wheel. Where as picture boards such as Pinterest just brought a stamped of femine information.
The overall effect was two fold. The audience expected higher performance than ever before. Both of society acceptance and use of the internet. The second thing was that within a short time the circles of influence had changed.
Visually shown in that hair styles altered. An alternative fashion sense was created. Meals became less from a cook book and more from the tablet. Mobile phones caught the process in action. Instant uploads caused picture swapping, shared and changed around.
In all these lives were shared. People knew that people cared balanced with the not so ‘nice’ things going on. And the woman was no longer becoming afraid to share these hidden secrets as well. Those who had been down the path once again were sharing their experiences. Age, gendar and even country of origin were no longer a matter to concern with, as the internet was boarderless.
The internet is still bringing many changes. Look around at the opening up of the world.
Counties like China closed boarders. Returning University students were used to the internet now. Closed off countries had a choice. One result were concepts such as Alibaba taking the world by storm.
Life once again has changed within this world.
Are you part of the your families change?